"Accepting one another and forgiving
one another if anyone has a complaint against another. Just as the Lord has
forgiven you, so you must also forgive."
-Colossians 3:13
When God forgives a sinner like us,
God makes a commitment to pardon graciously those who repent and believe so
that they are reconciled to Him, although this commitment does not eliminate
all consequences. His forgiveness is gracious and freely given. It is not free
regarding the cost to God; God sent his one and only Son to pay the price for
forgiveness.
While God’s forgiveness is given
only to those who repent, God’s forgiveness lays the groundwork for and begins
the process of reconciliation. When God forgives us, our relationship with Him
is restored. One cannot receive forgiveness from God without being reconciled
to God.
In a similar way, to guard the
unity of the church, believers in the local body must continually be
confronting and confessing sin. Some
passages in the Bible seem to indicate that you can just simply forgive someone
without ever speaking to them about the matter (Mark 11:25); however, some
passages seem to suggest that there can only be forgiveness when the offender
asks to be forgiven (Luke 17:3-4).
To make sense of this tension, I
would argue there is a difference between the attitude of forgiveness and the
transaction of forgiveness. Just like in
the gospel, we must be ready to extend forgiveness at any time! Perhaps the
hardest work of the two is preparing our hearts to forgive. Christians must draw on the forgiveness given
by Christ to forgive others. A heart
that has an attitude of forgiveness will do everything it can to help the offender
to repent, and a forgiving heart will always be ready and quick to reconcile
(Psalm 86:5). Conflict is not an issue of "speaking your mind" it's
an opportunity of repairing the fractured relationship and growing closer to
another. The transaction of forgiveness
takes place following the exposure of the sin.
After the one whom we have confronted has repented, we must forgive them
and remember the promises of forgiveness we are making:
a.
I will not bring this matter up to you (the offender) again in a hurtful
way in the future
b.
I will not bring this matter up to others
c.
I will not choose to dwell on it myself (to rehearse it and nurse it)
d. I will seek to be fully
reconciled with the estranged party.
Biblically, forgiveness is much
more than a feeling it is a commitment to pardon the offender. Forgiveness
requires a heart focused on loving God and God’s glory, motivated by love for
neighbor, and the courage to have tough conversations. Forgiveness also gives
us joy. It takes two people to create offense, and it takes two people to have
forgiveness.
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